Inner Stress Relief – How to manage your Stress? By Vikas Malkani

The word 'stress' originates from the French word 'estrece' meaning 'narrowness' and is used to depict a limiting or constriction of your power and abilities. You have the feeling of being emotionally and mentally stressed out when you think you have too much to handle.

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Anything viewed negatively has the potential of causing stress in your life regardless of what the thing may be. However, what makes one person stress-full may be quite an ordinary event for another. The secret to releasing stress is to realize that stress therefore is created not by the event or circumstance itself but by the way we respond to what happens to us in any moment of our life. We are the creators of stress and it we alone can provide the solution to it.

In essence, stress is the result of the way you think. And if you develop the ability to change the way you think, you will have in your hands the power to eradicate the stress that you feel.

Here are 3 easy ways to manage the inner stress you may encounter :

1. Act, then Detach

Trying to control every moment and outcome of your life causes more stress and disharmony than any other process.

Take the action the present moment requires, and once the action is done, stop clinging to the results. After your best is done, step back and wait for the results to arrive, then respond to them.

It’s the constant clinging and worry about the results that is the primary creator of stress.

Do your best, then Let-go, and become stress-free.

2. Meditate

You always have two choices in every situation – either curse the darkness, or light a candle. Meditation helps you to train your mind to choose the more positive attitude, always, regardless of the situation. 

Negative thinking produces stress and thinking positively releases it. Remember that stress arises out of the way you think, and since meditation is the skill of training your mind, meditation is also one of the most effective antidotes to stress.

Find a good teacher, and learn to meditate. And whatever the situation, keep your mind focused on the positive outcome you want to achieve, rather than the negative outcome you want to avoid!

3. Chunk it down!

Do things one at a time. Don’t be too concerned about how much there is to do, or how overwhelming some of the tasks seem. Just get one thing done at a time, again and again. Keep your mind focused on the one action you can take now, and do what’s in your power. One step at a time you can climb the highest mountain, and one step at a time you can accomplish the greatest task.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. So chunk it down and you will accomplish more with greater ease.

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How to manage post holiday stress?

The holiday are over and it's time to get back to the daily routine, which for many of us does not fill us with glee.

Do you have that feeling that life has to be more than simply working to pay the bills?

Is your inner voice shouting out all the things in your daily life that you do not enjoy, all the mundane and boring tasks that have to be done?

It is chattering non-stop and robbing your happiness and peace?

As you go about your daily activities are you constantly thinking of the fun times you had on holiday – of the freedom of walking on the beach – of the relaxed evenings with no e-mails / phones or agendas, waking up with nothing to do apart from have fun….

If you can relate to the above then the chances are you are starting to feel stressed inside, and it's time to take action to stop this before it becomes real.

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A few tips from our resident stress experts at SoulCentre:

• Accept reality - Understand that whatever is happening in your life at this moment is a choice you made – so do not fight with it – simply accept it, this way you will be able to manage the situation in a more calm manner.
• Do not focus on the past - The holiday is over; it was fun at that moment in tIme, however it is now in the past. If you live this moment wanting what has passed, then you will become unhappy in this moment. Once you realise this then you simply focus on this moment with awareness and see the positives in this moment.
• Count your blessings and focus on what is good at this moment in your life - You were able to take a holiday and to travel to a lovely place; this is truly a blessing that many cannot afford.
• Plan in “me time” – simply get out your diary and block in at least 2 hours a week as “me time”. During this time do whatever you desire as a treat to yourself.
• STOP – look at the thoughts in your mind - Are they positive and serving your happiness? If not then change them; no one wants to be unhappy, so choose positive thoughts that serve you. For example you can think about planning a future break, you can think about the faces of those you love, about nature, about your favourite food… Whatever it is simply switch and focus on what makes you feel happy.

At SoulCentre we keep you stable in the storms of life.

We teach techniques and provide tools that support you in life.

We tell you stories that stay with you forever and ones where simply by hearing them you understand the lessons of life.

Life is a gift – Celebrate it!

Life Coaching – How does it help me?

Do you ever feel as if life is simply passing you by and you are not really living the life you dreamed of?

This happens to all of us at some point in time and often it is because we have stopped really focussing on what we want to get out of life. Instead we start to please others and do what is expected of us, fulfilling the multiple roles that we have taken on and end up like a hamster running round and round on a wheel without much thought to where or what we are doing.

So at this moment, as you are reading this blog, I want you to STOP and ask yourself this one question.

What do I want from my life?

Yes YOU – the person reading this

What do YOU want for YOUR life?

For one moment forget your roles, forget your kids, your job, your partner, your dog, your shopping list, your facebook account, your need to be busy… and simply think about YOU!

If you need some help with this question, then give us a call and book a one-on-one life coaching session.

So what is a Life Coach and what will a Life Coach support and guide you on?

• A life coach is someone who will ask you questions that really make you think.
• A life coach is someone you can trust.
• A life coach is someone who will push you just a bit further than you could ever imagine is possible.
• A life coach will listen to you fully and without interrupting you.
• A life coach is someone who will hold up a mirror and help you see what limiting beliefs you may be carrying.
• A life coach will not judge you.
• A life coach is someone who will see your strengths and start to build on these.
• A life coach will also support you on any weaker areas, however this will not be their focus – after all your strengths are what will take you higher.
• A life coach will help you see the patterns of your life and will give you action points to change.
• A life coach will bring change to your life for the better.

Change is EASY – it begins with one thought, followed by ACTION.

So what are you waiting for?

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Life Coaching – How does it help me?

Do you ever feel as if life is simply passing you by and you are not really living the life you dreamed of?

This happens to all of us at some point in time and often it is because we have stopped really focussing on what we want to get out of life. Instead we start to please others and do what is expected of us, fulfilling the multiple roles that we have taken on and end up like a hamster running round and round on a wheel without much thought to where or what we are doing.

So at this moment, as you are reading this blog, I want you to STOP and ask yourself this one question.

What do I want from my life?

Yes YOU – the person reading this

What do YOU want for YOUR life?

For one moment forget your roles, forget your kids, your job, your partner, your dog, your shopping list, your facebook account, your need to be busy… and simply think about YOU!

If you need some help with this question, then give us a call and book a one-on-one life coaching session.

So what is a Life Coach and what will a Life Coach support and guide you on?

• A life coach is someone who will ask you questions that really make you think.
• A life coach is someone you can trust.
• A life coach is someone who will push you just a bit further than you could ever imagine is possible.
• A life coach will listen to you fully and without interrupting you.
• A life coach is someone who will hold up a mirror and help you see what limiting beliefs you may be carrying.
• A life coach will not judge you.
• A life coach is someone who will see your strengths and start to build on these.
• A life coach will also support you on any weaker areas, however this will not be their focus – after all your strengths are what will take you higher.
• A life coach will help you see the patterns of your life and will give you action points to change.
• A life coach will bring change to your life for the better.

Change is EASY – it begins with one thought, followed by ACTION.

So what are you waiting for?

A fun life awaits you - maximise your potential.

Wisdom for the Soul

INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE CARDS - SOULCENTRE

Do you ever wish you could simply find the answer to a question in life or do you ever feel a bit lost and would just love for some words of wisdom?

Well we have the solution, or as we love to say, the SOUL-ution.

SoulCentre Inspirational Words of Wisdom – Our SOUL Card series.

• Wisdom at your fingertips for you to use for any and every occasion.
• Beautiful quote cards that give you a boost in life just when you need it the most.
• Leave them on your coffee tables and pick a card whenever you need a boost.
• Put them on your walls / notice boards/ fridge to keep you inspired.
• Use them as handy post cards / notes to friends.

Available through SoulCentre – Order on line or simply just drop us an E-mail and order your set today.

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Who are you really?

I was reading an interesting article recently that debated that people with a high internet usage were markedly more lonesome and unhappy than those with low usage. It also went on to say that people who most need to learn how to interact with others are the ones spending time on their computers alone. 

Human connection is vital to self-esteem.

Everyone needs to learn basic life skills which teach how to adapt to life and to deal effectively with changing demands and daily life in a positive way. 

Social media is also creating more unhappiness as people scroll through pages of how life "should be", without realising that many posts on social media are actually false realities.

People want to show the world they have a perfect life - when actually it may be far from the truth.

I have met many people who are so different in reality to how they post on Social Media.

We now invite anyone and everyone into our head space by scrolling down Social Media - We do not filter.

We react to things we see which we had no intention of viewing. We allow the lives of others to play out in our minds - when we have no real connection with these people in daily life. 

It's time to STOP ...

... Forget what everyone else is doing ...

FOCUS on yourself 
Are you happy?
Are you living the life of your dreams?
Are you giving your best to the world ?
Are your emotions under your control and positive ones?
Switch off the computer Spend time in silence and discover your own unique and amazing gifts

You will feel so much happier and contribute to the world once you are centred in your own truth.

What is really certain in Life?

Have you ever stopped to really think about what is certain in life?

You only need to switch on the news and you can see that the unexpected happens each and every day. We could say that each moment is uncertain and indeed there is uncertainty in each and every moment. Do you really know what will happen in the next day or even in the next 10 minutes?

The goal to a stable mind is to embrace uncertainty. 

Become wise as those with wisdom know that "you do not know it all."

Understand the space around you. Simply observe and see the constant flow of change that happens all around.

Once you know and accept that life is always about change, then you become secure, confident and safe.

If you fight change or fear it - then you become insecure and have a disturbed mind.

Focus your efforts on your own self growth - develop your self esteem, know yourself and focus your efforts on understanding your thoughts/emotions and actions.

Do not put all your energies and focus on the external world - For you have no control there.

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Start to gain control of your life...

As we race through our day, multitasking as we go, adding on-to our never ending "to-do list", it sometimes feels too much, and is simply overwhelming. If you ever feel like this then take a few minutes now to read these tips. Apply one or two and already you are on the road to change.

Tips to help your day become stress free:

1. Take time to be alone on a regular basis, to listen to your heart, check your intentions; re-evaluate your goals and your activities.
2. Simplify your life! Start eliminating the trivial things. Also – don’t major in minor things.
3. Say ‘No’ in a firm but kind way when asked to do something you really don’t want to do.
4. Exercise regularly! Stretching your body releases tension.
5. Learn a variety of relaxation techniques and practice at least one regularly.
6. When you find yourself angry in situations, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” Anyone or anything that can make you angry is showing you how you allow yourself be controlled by expectations of how someone or something should be. When we accept others, ourselves and situations for what they are, we become more effective in influencing them to change in the way that we’d like them to.
7. If your schedule is busy, prioritize your activities and do the most important ones first.
8. Take frequent relaxation breaks.
9. Organize your life to include time for fun, spontaneity, and open spaces. Set a realistic schedule allowing some transition time between activities. Eliminate unnecessary commitments.
10. Smile and laugh more.
11. Learn to delegate responsibility.
12. Welcome change as an opportunity and challenge to learn and grow.